Utah County Sheriff's Office

Victim Services

The Utah County Victim Assistance Program is available to address the needs of victims of crime within our community. We are available to assist those who have been affected by crime and the abuse of others. All services are free of charge. The Utah County Victim Assistance Program assists families in breaking the cycle of violence and becoming independent and abuse free. We work to help families access community resources, develop safety plans, and receive education and encouragement to make changes and move forward in their lives. It is our goal to increase the safety of victims and to give support and guidance in maneuvering through the various elements involved in being a victim of crime.

The Utah County Assistance Program primarily serves victims of the following areas: Eagle Mountain, Cedar Fort, Fairfield, Elk Ridge, Goshen, Woodland Hills, Benjamin, Lake Shore, Palmyra, Spring Lake, West Mountain, and unincorporated areas of Utah County. Such assistance is offered to victims of domestic violence, sexual harassment, child abuse, robbery, victims of DUI/DWI crashes, elder abuse, homicide, stalking, harassment, etc.

Victim Services

Abusive Behaviors

The following types of behaviors are considered abusive:

Intimidation - The abuser frightens the victim with the following:

  • Certain "looks"
  • Gestures
  • Actions - such as smashing things
  • Destruction of victim's property or pets
  • Weapons

Emotional Abuse - To cause emotional abuse, the abuser typically does the following:

  • Makes the victim feel guilty
  • Calls the victim names
  • Embarrasses, humiliates, or demeans the victim
  • Plays mind games
  • Tells the victim they are crazy - does or says things that make the victim feel that they are crazy

Isolation - To cause isolation, the abuser does the following:

  • Keeps the victim from going places they would like to go, such as visiting family or friends, attending social groups, etc.
  • Listens to phone conversations or opens mail
  • Follows the victim around and/or questions them about their whereabouts, using jealousy to justify actions

Minimizing, Denying, & Blaming - This occurs when the abuser does the following:

  • Makes light of the abuse, saying it wasn't that bad
  • Says the abuse didn't happen
  • Says the abuse was the victim's fault

Excessively Dominant Partner - This is when the abuser does the following:

  • Acts like the "master of the house"
  • Treats the victim like a servant
  • Makes all the "big" decisions
  • Defines the victim's role/job
  • Patronizes, or in any other way, treats the victim like a child, not as an equal adult

Economic Abuse - This becomes abuse when one partner does the following:

  • Prevents the other from working outside the home
  • Makes the partner ask for money
  • Limits the money the partner has
  • Makes the partner account for every expenditure
  • Doesn't allow the partner to access information about the family finances

Uses Children - The use of children to abuse a partner occurs when the abuser does the following:

  • Makes the victim feel guilty about the victim's parenting skills and ability
  • Makes the victim responsible for all the children's misbehavior or mistakes
  • Undermines the victim's authority and effectiveness with the children through criticism
  • States or implies to the children that the victim is stupid or dumb - can't do anything right
  • Threatens to take the children away or kill them
  • Tells the victim that the Department of Child and Family Services will take the children away

Coercion & Threats - Some common threats used to coerce the victim into compliance are as follows:

  • Threatens to take the children away
  • Threatens to destroy property
  • Threatens to harm family or friends
  • Makes physical threats and/or actions toward the victim
  • Threatens to leave the victim
  • Threatens to commit suicide

Children in Family Violence

Children are direct targets of family violence. Children may suffer from:

  • Physical Abuse
  • Sexual Abuse
  • Emotional Abuse
  • Neglect

As a result children can feel they are in danger and chaos, feel fearful and tense, confused, isolated and hopeless. Some of the behaviors children may exhibit as a result of being exposed to family violence may include:

  • Difficulty learning
  • Poor social skills
  • Low self-esteem
  • Violent outbursts of anger
  • Bullying, withdrawn or dependent
  • Bed wetting
  • Nightmares
  • Digestive problems, ulcers
  • Headaches
  • Run away
  • Poor judgment
  • Substance abuse
  • Continue with the cycle of abuse in their own personal relationships whether as a victim or an abuser

Safety Planning

If you are still in the relationship:

  • Think of a safe place to go if an argument occurs - avoid rooms with no exits (bathroom), or rooms with weapons (kitchen)
  • Think about and make a list of safe people to contact
  • Keep change with you at all times
  • Memorize important numbers
  • Establish a "code word" or "sign" so that family, friends, teachers or co-workers know when to call for help
  • Think about what you will say to your partner if he/she becomes violent

Remember, you have the right to live without fear and violence.

If you have left the relationship:

  • Change your phone number
  • Screen calls
  • Save and document all contacts, messages, injuries or other incidents involving the batterer
  • Change locks, if the batterer has the key
  • Avoid staying alone
  • Plan how to get away if confronted by an abusive partner
  • If you have to meet your partner, do it in a public place
  • Vary your routine
  • Notify school and work contacts
  • Call a shelter for battered women

If you leave the relationship or are thinking of leaving, you should take important papers and documents with you to enable you to apply for benefits or take legal action.

Important papers you should take include social security cards and birth certificates for you and your children, your marriage license, leases or deeds in your name or both yours and your partner's names, your checkbook, your charge cards, bank statements and charge account statements, insurance policies, proof of income for you and your spouse (pay stubs or W-2's), and any documentation of past incidents of abuse (photos, police reports, medical records, etc.)

Learn how to create a Personal Safety Plan here.
Information courtesy of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

Cycle of Abuse

Phase 1: Tension Building is a time of minor conflicts when threats of violence may increase. This phase may last from a few hours to many months.

Phase 2: Violence erupts as the abuser throws objects at his/her partner, hits, slaps, kicks, chokes, abuses him/her sexually, uses weapons, or damages property in the home. Once the attack starts, there's little the victim can do to stop it; there generally are no witnesses.

Phase 3: A period of remorse may follow. This is often called the "Honeymoon" phase. The abuser may apologize, often excessively, and may express guilt of shame. Many abusers will buy gifts, flowers, etc, to ask for forgiveness. Often, the abuser will promise to go into treatment voluntarily, that the violence will never occur again, and that he or she will "change".

Phase 4: Phase 1 starts all over again, however, the next time the assault occurs, chances are that it will be much more severe.

Cycle of Abuse

Community Contacts

Sexual Assault
Rape Crisis Center 801-356-2511
Children's Justice Center (ages 0-18 years) 801-851-8554
UVRMC Counseling Services 801-357-7525
Wasatch Mental Health 801-373-4766
Domestic Violence
Center for Women & Children (shelter) 801-377-5500
Domestic Violence Information & Referral 1-800-897-LINK
Utah County Crisis Line 801-691-5433
Protection Orders (4th District) 801-429-1155
Adult Protection Services 1-800-371-7897
Child Abuse
Child Abuse Reporting in Utah County 801-374-7005
Child Abuse Reporting Statewide 1-800-678-9399
Children's Justice Center 801-851-8554
Guardian Ad Litem 801-344-8516
Family Support & Treatment Center (Crisis Respite Nursery) 801-229-1181
Legal Assistance
Utah Legal Services 1-800-662-4245
Utah State Bar Lawyer Referral 1-800-698-9077
Utah County Justice Court 801-851-7200
Utah County Attorney's Office 801-851-8026
Utah Crime Victim's Legal Clinic 801-746-1204
BYU Law Help (Fall/Winter only) 801-422-3025
Employment/Vocational Training
Workforce Services 801-342-2600
Vocational Rehabilitation 801-374-7724
UVU Turning Point 801-863-7580
Unemployment Insurance Benefits 801-375-4067
Homicide/Suicide Crisis Lines
HOPE Line (UVRMC) 801-375-4673
Wasatch Mental Health 801-373-7393
Emergency Assistance/Food
Community Action (food, shelter, heat) 801-373-8200
Food & Care Coalition 801-373-1825
LDS Transient Bishop 801-818-6156
Children Services
CHIP - Children's Health Insurance Program 1-888-222-2542
Baby Your Baby 1-800-826-9662
WIC 801-851-7340
Housing Agencies
Housing Authority of Utah County 801-373-8333
Provo City Housing Authority 801-852-7080
Minority Assistance
Centro Hispano 801-655-0258
Holy Cross Ministries 801-261-3440
Multi-cultural Legal Center 801-486-1183
Utah Legal Services (Salt Lake) 1-800-662-4245
Low Cost Medical Services
Utah County Health Department 801-851-7000
Mountainlands Health Clinic 801-374-9660
Volunteer Care Clinic 801-863-7608
Community Health Connect 801-818-3011
Alcohol & Drug Abuse
Alcoholics Anonymous 801-375-8620
Narcotics Anonymous 801-373-7060
Utah County Substance Abuse 801-851-7128
Financial Services
Crime Victim Reparations 1-800-621-7444
Workforce Services 801-342-2600
Office of Recovery Services (child support) 801-374-7233
UTA 801-227-8923 (English)
801-287-466 (Spanish)
Utah Valley Para transit 1-877-882-7272
Grief/Bereavement Support
Heart & Soul (Suicide Survivors) 801-372-3523
Canary Gardens 801-636-3602
Caring Connections (University of Utah) 801-585-9522
Utah Valley Regional Medical Center 801-357-2447
Hospice 4 Utah 801-812-3577
IHC Hospice 801-426-1826
Primary Children's Medical Center 801-588-3483